A LETTER FROM ELIJAH'S BIRTHMOM:
Upon meeting Matthew and Karen, it was obvious that they were madly in love with each other. I was seventeen when I got pregnant with their son, Elijah. I met them a week before he was born and that's all it took for me to fall in love with this amazing family. Our adoption is special and unique and if this is your choice, yours will be as well. Matthew and Karen do a remarkable job at maintaining our open adoption. In fact, they've exceeded my expectations extraordinarily. I love them as if they were my brother and sister, and I love them even more for being such incredible parents to our son. Elijah has thrived so much and I'm unbelievably thankful to be able to witness it. I know you're simply looking, but as a young woman who has also browsed through profiles, and "weighed her options" I understand your confusion, your curiosity, your turmoil, and especially the love for your child(ren). No matter what decisions you make for yourself and your precious child, just know that there are many out there who do understand, and that you are NEVER alone. Also. . . don't ever underestimate your strength. You may think it's impossible for you to bear the painstaking decision of an adoption (or even choosing to parent), but as mothers we are gifted with the ability to love far beyond our own comprehension; Thus doing what's best for our children becomes our only priority, and at that point, Heavenly Father steps in. The pain dissipates because our hearts are happier knowing our children have a brighter future than our own. If you've come this far, think of what tomorrow brings. Thank you for taking the time to read things from a birthmother's point of view, and if you need to talk to someone who has "been there," I am op;en ears. Matthew and Karen do an amazing job at empathizing with our feelings, they truly care. God Bless, you're in our prayers.